I love girl talk. I love getting together with my girlfriends and just talking about anything big or small. We can solve world problems, one at a time, within a few hours.
Troubled economy? Get a room of women together (with drinks) and it will be balanced within a day. Drinks are also a great icebreaker for girl talk (especially in unknown company) and make sharing stories and questions a lot easier. I like to think I’m pretty easy to talk to, so drinks just help me be more talkative and a lot louder when the conversation gets heated. Once I’ve had a glass of wine, I can guarantee that finger-waggin’ and “oh no you didn’t” are inevitable.
My favorite part about girl talk is how supportive it is. Don’t know what to do with your hair? The girls will give you some gentle and well-intentioned tips. Man trouble? Girlfriend I am here with you to the end on that. He doesn’t know what he’s missing out on. Family problems? Honey, I’m here to listen, tell me what’s wrong. During a particularly bad time last year, one friend sat on the phone with me for 2 hours while I cried and just rambled about nothing. She could have only been half-listening or watching television in the background, but she was there, and she knew that was what I needed.
With support like that, I feel like I can kick some a** and go out and say “lookout Chicago, here I come!”
Then there’s the flip side to girl talk: the catty side. Trust me, girls can be M-E-A-N, but honestly, this is my favorite part. I’ve been called judgemental many times and it’s partially true, but sometimes it’s nice to be around friends and women who think the same things you do and you feel safe in verbalizing them. Sadly, women can be the meanest and hit the lowest on one common thing: other women’s fashion choices. Below is an example of this.
**Woman wearing an inappropriate outfit walks by**
“Did you see that?”
“Hells yes, what was she thinking?”
“I don’t know, maybe she was drunk when she picked it out?”
“Maybe she was going for the ‘pigs in a blanket’ look?”
“You’re so mean”
“Oh shut up you were thinking the same thing b*tch, you were thinking that she’s not only colorblind, but she has bad taste”
“I know, but you said it!”
I have had this conversation in a variety of ways with many of my girlfriends. Usually it’s more crass too – I kept this one pretty PG-13. I know it’s mean, I know it’s beyond catty and childish but when you fight dirty, nothing is out of bounds. During my fashion dark-age, I am willing to guarantee that other women had the same conversation about my poor choices. Many women have looked at me, pointed and laughed. So I rationalize my catty actions by saying, “it’s my turn b*tches.”
Tonight, Liz, Anne and I went purse shopping (not for me) and out to sushi for dinner. It was a perfect girls night out with some appropriate, non-catty, super supportive girl talk. And walking to the El, it was exactly what I needed after a long week.
Now Sarah and I are going to buy my super-not-necessary-but-gee-I-want-it birthday gift this weekend. And I cannot wait to get some tips about how I should cut my hair in two weeks and what MAC eyeshadow colors I should invest in. Plus I’m sure we’ll find at least one person to make fun of.
Sounds like a solid time! Girl talk thoughts from anyone else?