14 September 2008

Boy pet peeves

By: Jessica B.
Everyone has quirks – including me, but I’ve noticed that the guys in my life (friends and family) have a few quirks/pet peeves that drive me bat sh*t crazy, especially lately.
Now my emotions might be a bit heightened because Chicago had three days of non-stop rain, so let me know if I’m overreacting.
My boy pet peeves (in no particular order):
  • Long showers – I have two stepbrothers and I have zero idea what they’re actually doing in the bathroom when they go in to take a shower. I hear the water turn on and off but they’re in there for like 40 minutes. Come on! Some of the women in the house need to use the bathroom too. I don’t know if they’re having a religious experience or writing a book but stop hogging the bathroom and let me enjoy some hot water! I once got so frustrated with one of them that I banged on the door and told him to “pinch it off” so I could finish getting ready.
  • Tardiness (beyond “fashionably late”) – This above everything else irritates me the most. I’m usually on-time or if I’m going to be late, I call to let the people I’m meeting know. Apparently this concept is lost on guys. I can name multiple examples of when I’m supposed to meet a guy friend of mine and he shows up about 15-20 minutes late, without a call or text that he’s running behind. To account for this, I’ve adjusted the time that I actually show up to meet him, but on a day like today, when it’s pouring rain and he’s 15 minutes late with no call, yeah I’m not so sympathetic.
  • Wandering eye – Even if I’m not dating any of the guys in my life, if we’re out and having a nice platonic time, please don’t fake-listen to me while you’re checking out other girls. Thanks. Eyes on me or at least on my chest. Be a team player.
  • Lack of listening – This kind of builds off the last point. Maybe it’s a “girl thing,” that we pay better attention and can fake being interested better than guys, but seriously, I do not want to talk about you all the time. At least pretend to be interested in my contributions to our conversations.
  • Not thinking before speaking – Now this one I can be pretty sympathetic on because everyone is different in how they want guys to respond in certain situations. Many of the guys in my life lack the “comforting” gene so I’ll settle for just validating how I feel. Usually saying something like, “well what did you expect?” and “calm down,” aren’t the best things to say when a women is upset. Just a tip. 
Part of me wanted to do the whole “not noticing” pet peeve too, but many of the guys in my life, minus one, just aren’t that observant. When I dyed my hair from blonde back to brown, my dad noticed but none of my guy friends did. When I pointed it out to them, it was like they saw it for the first time! I’ve given up on my guys asking if I’ve lost weight, if I got a new top or noticing hair color/cut changes. That’s too much to ask for in my arena.
Now these are just a list of pet peeves that applies to “my guys,” so I’m sure I’ve missed things. What are your boy pet peeves? We’ll add ’em to the list!


  1. Kayleigh says:

    I am wayyy into your sass.’

    “Wandering eye – Even if I’m not dating any of the guys in my life, if we’re out and having a nice platonic time, please don’t fake-listen to me while you’re checking out other girls. Thanks. Eyes on me or at least on my chest. Be a team player.”


    And I can totally picture you saying this, too. Glorious!

  2. EP says:

    Can I get an AMEN for all of these? Because I totally agree!

  3. The Maiden Metallurgist says:

    It was great meeting you last night, I’m looking forward to next time!

  4. Perky says:

    Guys who take much longer bathroom breaks than me. If I've already taken a piss, wash my hands, dried my hands, reapply powder & lip gloss AND still have to wait for him to come out of the gents, man… that makes me wonder who’s the girl here ;)

  5. Blaez says:

    sorry to go off topic! but you’ve been tagged for a meme!


    oh wait, i stayed on topic!

  6. LJ says:

    I hate the guys wandering eye one when your talking to them, even if they are just a friend, it is rude!

    My current pet peeve which can change on a daily basis, is when guys unload grocerys and they put every single thing in the refrigerator, if it belongs there or not! Like granola bars, Peanut butter, protein powder, licorice! I mean come on we have cupboards!

  7. G+D says:

    Telling a girl to “calm down” or “relax” is grounds for a kick in the junk, IMO.

  8. Ray says:

    Stumbled across your blog…so cute!

    And seriously, what is with the long showers??

  9. Nilsa S. says:

    OMG, you are so right! I always wonder what my fiance does in the shower. He doesn’t shave. He only shampoos, no conditioner. And so, I really don’t get why he’s in there forever. Gah!

  10. Jenn says:

    Messiness. I know boys are boys and not all care about organization as much as I do. But if your place smells like ass, eh, no thanks.

    I don’t want to walk over pizza boxes, balls of dust and old/dirty boxers just to get to the bathroom. Actually, at that point I probably wouldn’t want to see the bathroom.

  11. wontletlifedefineme says:

    By the way, there’s an award waiting for you at my blog.

  12. DomestiGals says:

    Ok, so it’s not just my bf who takes longer showers than I do? I mean WTF? It’s not like they have to shave their legs! Crazy boys.

  13. Alexa says:

    long showers equal masturbation time.

    yeah, i said it.

  14. Erin says:

    Are you sure you have no idea what they are doing in the bathroom for so long??? ;)

    I can’t stand the late thing either…but Ted knows better than to make me late.

  15. Megkathleen says:

    You called it with the being late – that drives me absolutely bonkers. I used to have a guy friend that was late to absolutely everything and we’re talking 45 minutes to an hour late and it was always because he was “showering”. Give me a break!

  16. Salt City Mistress says:

    The tardiness and the wandering-eye are the two that always get me with “my boys” I seriously don’t know how their girlfriends put up with it. I realize they’re getting the additional “physical” bonus, but I don’t think that makes up for the other two combined.

  17. Kyla Bea says:

    Lack of contribution!

    Some of my guy friends are the type that wants to hang out, but doesn’t have anything to say – it’s torture!

  18. -A says:

    When a man tells me to “relax.” Agh! Not the smartest word to say.

  19. ToughGirl101 says:

    Ah hahaha, you and i have the same pet peeves.

  20. SA says:

    Forgetfulness. If you can remember what time the game starts you can remember that we had dinner plans. So irritating.

  21. Miss Grace says:

    Those are my general pet peeves-not specific to boys.

  22. surviving myself says:

    What about “Relax!”

    That’s my go to response.

  23. laurwilk says:

    Apparently the men in my life aren’t so bad! I don’t think any of them do these things.

    My pet peeve is a bit unfair. It just so happens that all of the women in my life (sisters) have blonde hair and all of the men in my life (SO and brothers) have dark hair.

    I am completely disgusted by dark hair on things. Whether it be in the shower, hanging out around the sink, wherever. I hate dark hairs! So, that’s my biggest pet peeve with the men in my life. They need to pick up their thick, dark hairs. YUCK!

    (I about died multiple times in Cambodia when taking showers, getting massages, etc. I can’t handle the dark hairs!)

  24. Katelin says:

    i hate tardiness too. luckily matt’s pretty good about being on time (or even early) and ends up waiting for me these days, whoops. :)

  25. LBluca77 says:

    I hate how some guys will take hours to get ready. OK, they don’t have long enough hair to dry, they don’t have any makeup to put on, they could care less about taking time to actually match their clothes. So I just don’t understand why it takes them forever to get ready.

    Boys are buffoons!

  26. Paula says:

    Guys who deliberately fuck with your head, just so they appear “mysterious”. Sooo bloody irritating!!!

  27. Katie says:

    Boys who are comfortable with you feel that it’s ok to make “readjustments”. The “boys” can wait till my back is turned…right??!?!

  28. Maxie says:

    My biggest deal breakers are arrogance and closed mindedness. Can’t deal with ’em.

  29. lifeintheleftlane says:

    I notice that guys tend to just stand in front of the TV when they are interested in something that’s on, blocking it from your view. Or when they talk during your favorite shows….grr!

    I think the lengthy shower thing comes from them turning on the water, then going to the bathroom, then getting in the shower. My husband does this sometimes and I want to kill him. Not only does it waste an insane amount of water but it uses all of the hot water too!

  30. secretlysupergirl says:

    The frat boy mentality. I know better than to suggest doing something alone when I know his friends are going out on the town. Because if boyfriend doesn’t see them regularly, he gets resentful and frustrated at me. What the heck? Last I checked, his male friends do not offer the same lovin’ I do!

  31. wontletlifedefineme says:

    The tardiness, most definitely. The block-mess-sensor which makes them overlook the fact that there’s nowhere left on the quite sizeable table to put down a coffee cup, the postponing things that need to be done forever and ever and.. how much space do you have on that list?

    (okay to make it up to guys a little because now I feel guilty, most of them are excellent cooks, they don’t mind you dropping by unannounced and they scrutinize you less than other girls.)

  32. Wendy says:

    When I was dating, I had a rule that I wouldn’t go out with anyone who looked like he took longer than I did to get ready in the morning. So much for that–my husband takes as long as I do! I don’t understand why his inch-long hair takes as long as my almost shoulder-length hair.

    Glad to see I’m not the only one pondering this mystery.

  33. ...love Maegan says:

    Seriously, my husband takes the longest showers known to mankind …and then he opens the door when he’s finished and proceeds to fog up every mirror in the house from the steam – THEN, he leaves his wet towels wherever they effing fall off …which are SOAKED and end up smelling. KILL

  34. The Modern Gal says:

    Ooo, the Modern Beau is totally guilty of No. 1. I could take three showers for every one he takes. Completely debunks the idea that women take longer to get ready.

  35. Princess Pointful says:

    Falling asleep on the couch. I know it happens to the best of us, but when I’m going to bed, you are half-snoring on the couch, why not just come with me and snuggle in the warm blankets rather than save your energy and stay on the cold couch?

  36. Angela says:

    I agree with your middle three. I can’t stand it when ANYONE is late, let alone a guy I made plans with. It drives me crazy.

  37. Ashley D says:

    All valid pet peeves, in my opinion. I’ve never understood why some boys take such long shower. Or why it takes them longer than me to get ready.

  38. Mandy says:

    Great list! LOL. I agree with all of them. I know some guys who take longer to get ready than I do! I usually get the guys staring at my chest and want to knock them on the head and say ” hello, my face is up here!”

  39. Maki says:

    Hello:) Thanks so much for stopping by my blog!

    Your step-brothers are in the shower for 40 mins?? That’s kind of long for men, yes? Anyway, I can’t stand any guys who think too highly of himself. They think they are sooo KOOL and they’re it! Such a turn off.

    Great blog – I will definitely be coming back!! Thanks again for the comment:D

  40. Vanessa says:

    The long showers thing makes me crazy! The SO will drain the hot water and I have to wait to get a *warm* shower. Nothing pisses me off more than being made late because he took all the hot water or having to have a cold shower. My showers are 4 minutes flat. Every. Time.

  41. Rachel says:

    Mine is the lack of “putting themselves in my shoes” Even Dan has moments when he doesn’t take me and how I would feel into account.

  42. Athena Valentine says:

    “Eyes on me or at least on my chest. Be a team player.”

    Couldn’t of said it better myself.

  43. jamie says:

    Boys who constantly look at themselves in the mirror!! Or those who take longer than me to get ready! :)