By: Jessica B.
That’s right, I’m getting back out there!
My experience at eHarmony was a big FAIL. Apparently on its compatibility scale, I am undesirable for just about everyone in the Chicago area, so I decided to bail on that and go with Match.com, which a few other of my friends have had luck with.
Online dating, take two!
I’ve been on Match.com now for a little over two weeks and it is dramatically different from eHarmony (but not in a bad way) and has made me feel overwhelmed and surprised at the same time.
Mostly, because there are men on Match.com that actually seem interested in me and my profile. Or that “new profile” smell is still on me, either one.
Within 24 hours of signing up, my personal e-mail was flooded with “winks” and even a few e-mails, all with guys who were interested.
To be fair, about 40 percent of those guys I was actually also interested in, but hey, a girl likes a self-esteem boost every now and again. Except when creepy 45-year-old guys send you a double entendre e-mail or guys e-mail asking if you think they’re cute (most of the time, they’re not).
And every day, I open up my e-mail to find a few more winks or e-mails from other guys that seem to find me interesting. I mean, it’s flattering but also overwhelming. At one point, I almost said, “good lord not another one.”
I know, beggars can’t be choosers.
But now two of the guys I’ve exchanged very casual e-mails with want to meet in person! After only an e-mail? I know it’s more of a “job interview” meet up but still, so soon?
Here is where I’m torn. I’m curious to meet them too, but wonder if they are a possible “Craigslist” copy-cat killer, only on Match.com or how I bail if they turn out to be a) not as cute in person or b) not interesting.
Do I expect they will pay for the drink we’re meeting up for? Well, one guy said he doesn’t believe men should always have to make the first move, so I’ll guess that we’ll be going Dutch on that one.
What do you all think? Should I take a chance and meet them for a drink, or is it too much too soon? Personally, I think a few more e-mails might not hurt, but I might be overthinking this one.