not ask the other person what they'd like to do unless they are already in a relationship together.

I was lucky enough to meet a decent guy on match. We started talking in Jan, "dating" in Feb., and by April we were in a relationship. Just a note though: my second date with him was BAD…he made too many sexual jokes, had no plan for after the movie, and told me about his foot fetish. I was ready to say adios to him, but decided he could have just had a bad night and gave him a second chance. I was glad I did. He even apologized for how bad that date was and we still laugh about it today.

Good Luck in your dating adventures! It's tough!

I do wish you the best!

I had to learn to be a tad aggressive in the dating arena and while it was hard, it was worth it.

I did online dating for awhile and I know what you mean. It's work. But the end result is either a fun date, good blog fodder or a nightmare that you live to tell about. I hope for you it's fun or blog fodder =)

Good luck with the dating scene! That's next on my list of things after graduation ;) See at least I have my priorities straight.

I would be kind of "meh" on someone who asked me out and told me to plan it. That just suggests laziness/ambivalence, and no one needs that!

That's personal preference though. Remember that you can be picky on those dating sites! You don't have to meet every nice/interesting guy you come across, and the second something is off (like Mr. Noncommittal – noncommittal for date options? Not a great sign), move on. There are tons of options out there, and when you're on a dating site, those many options are literally at your fingertips. Be pickier. You'll be happier in the end :)

I agree that if a guy asks you out, he should have some interest in where you go… There's one thing to being indifferent and open to whatever, but if you offered suggestions, he should at least voice his opinion in some form.

I don't think the guy should have to plan the dates, but I would hope he'd have some interest in what we were doing together.

I'm definitely an old-fashioned type and LOVE when the guy plans out a date. Names the bar or restaurant..That is THE best. I had given up hope that men in NYC actually still do that, until I recently met a guy I've been out with only a couple times and so far he is planning and I LOVE it for once!

So I'm right with ya – if he asks you out, he should take the lead.
GOOD LUCK!

And PS: I've done the online dating thing. It can be work! But good for you for putting yourself out there…it's a risk for sure and I think that's very brave of you. :)

I'm in the same boat. I joined Match when I came home this summer and have gone on dates with two guys. There's a third, and we've been texting back-and-forth for over a month now, and he SAYS he wants to meet me, but it hasn't happened. I'm just trying not to get my hopes up or put too much energy into him because he hasn't put all that energy into meeting me.

I'd stick with the other guys who you've been talking to. That Sam guy needs to be more aggressive, like you said. I think guys need to do the work and planning initially, too.

and i love chicagosane's comment. so true, especially in today's world.

I like a guy to take the reins and make the plans in my relationships, so if he can't even do that to set up a date its a pretty good sign to me that he's not my type.