Oh family. They make you laugh and cry, sometimes at the same time. I can admit, sadly, that I am an awful granddaughter. I don’t see my grandparents much outside of the holidays, but I do try to call when I can, even if it is painful to do so.
My grandma means well but sometimes when she says things, it can be…back handed. I just chant to myself, “she means well, she means well.” I know in my heart she does, but that doesn’t mean that I can’t tease her a little bit when she makes these comments.
She’s also been “supportive” of my quest to stay single too. I’ve posted before about our “colorful” conversations regarding my singleton status and recently had another dating-related conversation with her, yippee. Apparently she’s brought this back on the call agenda because I’ve entered into a new decade.
Let’s join our conversation.
Grandma: I saw a report on the news that women in their 30s are getting “more involved” than they did in their 20s
Me: More involved?
Grandma: Yes, in things they didn’t get to focus on a lot when they were younger
Me: You mean, like dating or having kids?
Grandma: Well yes, they just choose to hold off on that stuff so they can live their life. So that’s something for you to look forward to
Me: You know, it’s okay if I don’t get married or have kids. That’s not for everyone
Grandma: Well you’re in your 30s now, so you still have time
Me: Yeah, maybe, it could happen, you never know
Grandma: Oh yes, that single stuff we knew was just a phase
Me: Like rock music and experimenting in college?
Grandma: Experimenting with what?
Me: ……….stuff, you know, like, actually never mind, yes I’m going to definitely stop living my life now in my 30s and focus on getting married
Grandma: There you go! Good for you!
Yeah, I cherish these talks :)
Does anyone else’s grandma or family continunally poke at their single status and anything else?
I know now never to bring up weddings around her because she’ll say how great it is and how happy it makes family when their kids get married.
Enter more crickets chirping from my end of the phone.