Comments on: My freakishly observant complimenting nature

By: andhari

andhari — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 01:43:57 +0000

I hear ya, I’m always my own worst critique. When I do something I know I’m not supposed to or when I fail on something I kick myself so low :(

I need to do some of these tips of yours :)

By: katelin

katelin — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 01:00:28 +0000

i make it a goal to say something nice to someone every day, but i guess i should add in a goal to say something nice to myself too, haha.

By: FB @ FabulouslyBroke.com

FB @ FabulouslyBroke.com — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 22:19:35 +0000

I am freakishly observant for checking out girls’ outfits
Shoes, bags, leggings factor.. I’m there

I have to point them out to BF if they aren’t obvious!!!

By: Erin

Erin — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 21:22:33 +0000

I think both of those things are really good traits to have. And what a great idea to apply the compliment trait to yourself!

I used to be freakishly observant. I worry that my mind is going because I’m not so much any more. Although, I can pull a random trivia answer out of my a$$ almost any day of the week.

By: Kate

Kate — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 17:41:26 +0000

Are we twins? Seriously. Virgo sisters unite!

By: MinD

MinD — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 17:06:31 +0000

I forget everything. My grandmother tells me every week about various doctor’s stuff and I completely forget all the time. Not a good trait to have, that’s for sure.

By: thatShortChick

thatShortChick — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 16:55:05 +0000

I’m exactly like this! I’ll remember some random fact about a person, ask them and the person will be like, “I’m completely forgot about that, how did you remember?!”

and I love giving people random compliments because it really does make a HUGE difference in one’s day.

By: Wonderful

Wonderful — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 16:27:19 +0000

I am totally freakishly observant too!! And like you, I don’t compliment myself nearly enough. I like doing it for others, because it makes them feel good, and like you, I mean it. I want to share it. I want to know how they are doing.

By: Rebecca_C

Rebecca_C — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 16:09:46 +0000

Totally amused about the sister’s cousin’s hospital visit or whatever because its totally true. Its uncanny how you can do that. Its like a parlor trick!

Now repeat after me: “I am a good person with sassy shoes and people like me.” “I am a good person with sassy shoes and people like me.” “I am a good person with sassy shoes and people like me.” “I am a good person with sassy shoes and people like me.”

By: Mrs. Potts

Mrs. Potts — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 16:05:11 +0000

I’m like you in that I like to compliment people. I know how good it makes me feel when I get a compliment & so I try to share those happy feelings – especially if I love someone’s shoes or their hair looks good.

I’m also like you in that I don’t compliment myself as often as I could. What’s up with that? I’m going to take your idea & run with it. I mean, not go crazy complimenting myself, but just remind myself that I can be pretty awesome too.

By: The Modern Gal

The Modern Gal — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 15:10:51 +0000

Just remember: You’re good enough, you’re smart enough and doggonit, people LIKE you.

By: SoMi's Nilsa

SoMi's Nilsa — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 14:47:48 +0000

I’m critical of everyone. hahah. I kid. I think it’s a great idea to compliment yourself on *something* every day. Being introspective leads to personal growth,, that’s for sure.

By: The Only Girl

The Only Girl — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 14:29:40 +0000

Yes, I am also an observer/compliment-er. But maybe you’re on to something here. I, too, will compliment myself as well as others for the next week and see what happens.

By: Kyla Roma

Kyla Roma — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 13:36:14 +0000

I’m freakishly observant- but I do compliment myself and honestly, it’s made a huge difference in my self esteem! I used to be really bad, and one of my friends called me on it. I couldn’t name 20 things about me that I liked. She demanded (I love the teenage versions of my friends lol) that I start listing 5 things out loud every day because if my internal voice wasn’t strong enough I should skip it and use my real voice.

It felt really, really stupid but it helped an incredible amount! =) I love your experiment! Good luck! (And use your real voice if your internal monologue is too catty, it’s worth over riding it)

By: Adrienne D

Adrienne D — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 12:18:56 +0000

Just like Kim on “Real Housewives of Atlanta.” I’m kidding, though! It’s a really good practice – just the act of verbalizing something positive really makes you feel better, others feel better (when applicable) and tips things in a positive direction. Miss our little exchanges at the gym and beyond!

By: Jackie

Jackie — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 11:17:37 +0000

I’m a complimenter too. I always comment on clothes, hair, shoes, etc. It makes me feel good to make other people feel good ([plus other people are always so cute!)

By: Nicole Marie

Nicole Marie — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 07:45:13 +0000

*You’re right on. I hate embarrassing grammatical errors!

Although I guess that would fall under the category of being less hard on myself being that it’s quarter to two in the morning and all.

By: Nicole Marie

Nicole Marie — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 07:43:09 +0000

It’s fantastic that you remember to say that stuff in the moment. When I don’t see someone I’ll totally be thinking about their sick cat/marathon running Aunt Sally and then it slips my mind when I’m actually with the person. I’m terrible with compliments, too. But the thing is, I’m thinking them! While I’m talking to you in the back of my mind I’m thinking that I really like your earrings. I’m trying to get better about saying that stuff out loud. I know it makes me feel good when others do it for me.

And your right on about ditching the negative self talk. We could all be more than a little nicer to ourselves.

By: Princess Pointful

Princess Pointful — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 05:50:26 +0000

I’m naturally observant, too. I think that’s what draws me to write– I notice too much not to.
Yet I don’t expect other people to be the same way, somehow…

By: Doniree

Doniree — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 05:20:22 +0000

Ok, so we were JUST discussing something like this in one of my yoga teacher training classes over the weekend. One of the practices of yoga is ahimsa or non-violence. But it’s broad in that it encompasses not just the physical act of violence, but all kinds of intentions and harmful thoughts towards “all beings.” We always think of that as an outward expression, but what my instructor pointed out was that “YOU are a being too.” So, be as nice to yourself inwardly and outwardly as you are to others, and you’re on the right track.

Oh, and Jess? You look great today. :)