Comments on: Taking things personally

By: andhari

andhari — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 19:43:41 +0000

I would definitely kick the guy’s car or do anything equally violent. I don’t know, he’s being a major ass by saying that to you. And I’m sure hes saying it for being rude and not because it’s the fact. I saw your pictures before, definitely far from fat ass. That guy is just being an asshole.

By: Elle

Elle — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 02:38:26 +0000

I’m a lot like you – usually go through life with a calm demeanor, not being affected by much. And then something hits – no matter how how insignificant it may be – and it spuns my world right around. I’d like to think it builds character somehow :). But what a douche!!! It’s like, dude, get the f*ck over your midlife crisis already, jump into a Volvo, and watch where you’re freaking going!

By: Wonderful

Wonderful — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 00:17:11 +0000

I take things personally sometimes too, even when I wish I didn’t care. Weight is a sensitive topic with me too.

By: The Modern Gal

The Modern Gal — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 19:02:11 +0000

Ugh, what an ass. It would take me too long to come up with an appropriate snarky response, so I’d probably end up just screaming something nonsensical at him.

But seriously, just keep in mind that that guy had to take something out on someone because he leads an unhappy life. Jerks like that always pick on normal, seemingly happy people because they remind them how unhappy they are. It’s nearly impossible not to take it personally, but try not to let it get to you too much.

And to the dude on Twitter: weight is always a sensitive subject, even when you’re being up front about how you feel about it.

By: Katie K

Katie K — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 15:49:00 +0000

Geez! Incidents like that always happen to me – I get so annoyed when people run red lights or drive too closely and almost hit me.

I think it’s good that you “snap something rude” back. The other person deserves it!

By: Walter

Walter — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 06:02:56 +0000

The are many triggers that’s personal. We can’t control our instinct to respond in retaliation. But I feel there’s no benefit from doing this. It only makes us the more miserable.

One thing I have learned in life is we are not what we think we are, we are puppets of our minds. We respond to certain situation but are not aware where the instructions came from.

Unless we break free from the controls of our mind, we will never really experience life. We are more of a living dead. :-)

By: OMG

OMG — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 03:46:44 +0000

You should totally go out to a gay bar with some gay bois who will treat you nicely and you will have a nice time. there is no pressure and you can totally have fun – try it :-)

By: Lollygagger

Lollygagger — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 02:34:53 +0000

That is crazy! I hate people like that! I agree with everyone here, you’re fab!

I know what you mean though about taking things personally. Whenever a guy doesn’t like me I automatically think “I’m too big” but I know that is EFFED.

By: Megkathleen

Megkathleen — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 00:51:22 +0000

I think weight is a touchy subject for the majority of women and I think that is why assholes like that will call anybody who gets in their way a fat bitch because they know just how effective it is in hurting people. Just carry those eggs around with you – who knows maybe you’ll see his car in a random parking lot one of these days.

By: katelin

katelin — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 23:43:03 +0000

oh your ass is most definitely not fat. it’s awesome.

By: katelin

katelin — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 23:42:26 +0000

ew what an ass. i totally would have yelled back at him. at least i’d like to pretend that i would. i hate asshats like that, ugh.

By: thatShortChick

thatShortChick — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 22:53:10 +0000

what an asshole! The urge to throw a rock (or four) at that dbag’s car would’ve been too strong for me to resist.

but yeah, I get majorly sensitive if things have been said to me or about me and then I proceed to obsess over them for about a week. or two.

By: Nora

Nora — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 22:13:40 +0000

Certain things I can let go of but other things like my weight, my appearance and to an extent, my work, I can be sensitive/defensive. (I blame it on me being a Siclian Italian.)

I probably would have flipped him off for a good five minutes or attempted to chase him down and beat him up. He’s clearly an asshole and I’m sorry that he decided to take out whatever odd midlife crisis bs he’s going through out on someone like you who does NOT have a fat ass and is NOT a bitch.

By: Kate

Kate — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 19:05:33 +0000

Several years ago I had to take some tests for my shrink when I started seeing him. Everything came back normal except for the fact that I’m a bit of a reverse narcissist. In my head, everything is about me, but in a self-loathing kind of way. So yes, I take more things personally than I should. ;)

Also, a few years back, after getting off the el, I was walking down the sidewalk and this older guy felt the need to squeeze between me and a bike rack. He didn’t excuse himself as he basically body-checked me, so I said, “Um, excuse me!” And then he called me the C word. I was so shocked that the only thing I could do was tear up. Asshole.

By: SoMi's Nilsa

SoMi's Nilsa — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 18:11:00 +0000

Very timely given my post today about our cleaning lady. Let’s just say that I take it VERY personally when our cleaning lady tells me our place is dirty. Otherwise, I have a thick skin. Most of the time.

By: Melissa

Melissa — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 17:20:29 +0000

Ughhh don’t you hate it when the best retorts come AFTER the fact?
Oh, well, I guess it’s good that you didn’t sink to his level. The guy is obviously a jerk!

By: Bing

Bing — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 17:02:37 +0000

I’m usually pretty thick-skinned, so most things don’t bother me. I have a bad temper and when someone says something that gets to me, I usually go right into defense mode and attack them back. Mature, no. Makes me feel better, yes.

By: ray

ray — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 14:35:22 +0000

I take things to heart as well. This one time after a Cubs game, we “shared some “Old Style” induced words with an older couple who almost ran us over as we were walking from the stadium. She called me a fat b*tch, and it stung. Then I promptly told her that her boobs were so saggy if she didn’t get out of my face I would hit her in the head with her own boobie. Immature? Yes. But don’t attack my body image and then expect to make a clean get away.

By: Kara

Kara — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 14:34:19 +0000

I react, like any other human being, and then I take a second to stop and think about what just happened. At that point, I can usually talk myself out of any snap judgement on myself and re-focus my hostility where it should be rightly placed.

In this situaiton jdugement’s rightful place is back on that *sshole driver, who clearly is not smart enough to figure out simple driving rules. Him and all his old college frat brothers were probably drunk behind the wheel, desperately holding on to their glory days because Karma has done a number on their reality.

You on the other hand, I believe, Karma will be good to. :)

By: RondaMarie

RondaMarie — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 14:25:07 +0000

I think when someone says something to me and it hits on a personal insecurity of mine then it really gets to me. For example, I think I have a bog nose, so if someone commented on that it would hurt, but I think I have awesome legs, so if someone called me ‘stumpy’ I’d blow it off because I feel it isn’t true. I think maybe this got to you because you’ve been feeling a bit self conscious lately. What you need to remember is that how good you feel about you comes from you, others can only make you feel bad if you let them.