Every few months I try to clean up my Twitter profile because, well, it can be overwhelming.
Updates never stop (like the mail) and hitting reload on Twitter after being away from your phone for even 10 minutes is scary.
That is the joy and curse of non-stop information.
Anyhow, a few weeks ago, I saw on Twitter that someone’s feelings were hurt when she found out she was unfollowed by an online friend. While the original person did apologize to her, that didn’t resolve the issue and caused some follow up tweets about how upset she was, etc.
I know being unfollowed can hurt and no matter what he/she says to reassure you, you take it personally (even if you’re not vocal about it.)
People (myself included at times) take social media very personally, especially when it comes to being unfollowed or unfriended. And after thinking about it more, I get why they do because social media IS personal. You tweet and Facebook and link to things that you like and care about. Blogs, especially personal ones, are an extension of you, where you are more honest on screen than you may be in person. So hearing that someone unfollowed or unfriended you does feel a little like rejection.
I’ve even wondered “what could I have done differently to keep them?” or “why don’t they like me?” It’s like being teleported back to high school, full of crippling anxiety and nerves.
I’ll be fair, it isn’t like this for everyone, but the Twitter incident I mentioned got me thinking.
How can you be you but also be “dead inside” to the way blog comment, Facebook requests and Twitter followers fluctuate?
The only answer I can come up with is to write and be you and those who are really worth your time and find you interesting will stay loyal to you.
So that’s my mentality now. I appreciate and love reading every single comment I get, and still feel bad at times when I can’t read everyone’s blog, or follow everyone that follows me on Twitter. But I do the best I can.
Yes, even with this tough attitude, seeing people unfollow me or seeing low comments on a blog post I put my heart and soul in does hurt at times, but in the end, I keep plugging along and hope that even though people don’t comment, they’re out there still reading and enjoying.
Do you take things personally online? How do you respond when you see followers, comments, etc. go up and down?