Comments on: Taking a look at self-compassion

By: The Modern Gal

The Modern Gal — Wed, 09 Mar 2011 15:57:30 +0000

This is so important! My Weight Watchers leader put a big emphasis on self compassion. When you have a day where you don’t quite eat right or don’t exercise, you have to say, ‘It’s OK, I see where I went wrong and I’ll try to do better the next time.’ If you’re too hard on yourself too often, you’ll want to give up (because who wants to sustain that kind of abuse from anyone ? :)

I’ve had to work on practicing more self compassion at work — not beating myself up when things don’t go the way I think they should. It’s so hard, but focusing on it has helped me be less stressed out.

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Mon, 07 Mar 2011 04:40:19 +0000

I can be my own worst critic, but sometimes I have a ridiculous amount of confidence in areas where I maybe shouldn’t! Or maybe I’m just being too critical now? But, yes, I think we could all stand to stop beating up on ourselves.

By: Jen

Jen — Sun, 06 Mar 2011 05:28:22 +0000

I am totally my own worst critic. The things I think about myself are bad and I really need to be compassionate to myself.

By: Mega

Mega — Sun, 06 Mar 2011 00:03:15 +0000

I have this same issue at work, and one of my biggest shortcomings is that I hold other people to the same ridiculously high expectations. Sometimes I have to step back and realize no matter what happens today, tomorrow will still come. The sun will still come up, and Charlie Sheen will still be entertaining as all hell.

By: E.P.

E.P. — Sat, 05 Mar 2011 22:59:45 +0000

We are so similar, girl, because I am the same way as you. I am my toughest critic, byfar, and I hold myself to ridiculously high standards. Which is a good thing, I think, except when I miss, I am not so compassionate to myself and my shortcoming… even if I wasn’t that far off.

By: Anna

Anna — Sat, 05 Mar 2011 21:47:28 +0000

I am the exact same way. I am definitely my own worst critic. I read the article and I’m going to try to approach my mistakes the way I would with a friend.

By: Lil' Woman

Lil' Woman — Sat, 05 Mar 2011 10:12:59 +0000

I am def. my worst critic….it’s so true that we judge ourselves harder than others.

By: Kate

Kate — Fri, 04 Mar 2011 21:12:08 +0000

Oh, totally. I’ve been that way my whole life. I hold people to a high standard, but myself to the highest standard. I have eased up on myself over the years. I mean, I know I’m going to screw up or not be perfect at everything, so I try to cut myself some slack. Still, I have been known to cry at bowling alleys when I’m playing a really bad game. Kind of pathetic.

P.S. Being a Virgo doesn’t help things. We’re total perfectionists.

By: Erin

Erin — Fri, 04 Mar 2011 21:04:57 +0000

This is such a huge problem for me, and it’s been amplified 100 times since becoming a mom. I need to cut myself some slack for making mistakes, or even just not getting everything done when I want to. Thanks for the reminder.

By: Nora

Nora — Fri, 04 Mar 2011 19:35:13 +0000

Yes, yes, 1,000 times yes! I’m defintely awful at cutting myself some slack. I’m sure if I did that I’d feel less stressed, eat less, and feel better overall :) Thanks for sharing and reminding us… now if only I could *remember* it.

By: Cheryl

Cheryl — Fri, 04 Mar 2011 15:56:45 +0000

I AM my own worst critic! I once had a friend tell me that I am so worried about how a I treat others, but I’m so nice to others, I’m a bitch to myself. So true…so true. I’m going to try to adopt that mantra too…

By: The Maiden Metallurgist

The Maiden Metallurgist — Fri, 04 Mar 2011 15:45:12 +0000

I think this is a great lesson, and I hope you can learn how to make self compassion and self love a part of your life everyday.

By: Joey

Joey — Fri, 04 Mar 2011 13:10:33 +0000

Most definitely.

By: Heidi Renée

Heidi Renée — Fri, 04 Mar 2011 05:01:03 +0000

Sometimes I think that I need to be harder on myself, actually. I let a lot of things go that I shouldn’t.

By: Amber from Girl with the Red Hair

Amber from Girl with the Red Hair — Fri, 04 Mar 2011 04:34:12 +0000

Ohhh heck yes! 100%!! One of my girlfriends always reminds me that when we are judging ourselves or making decisions for ourselves (especially related to men) we should ask ourselves “would I want my daughter or niece to feel like this/be treated like this etc.” or “what if my daughter or niece came to me with this problem”. Chances are we would be A LOT easier on them than ourselves!

By: alliecakes

alliecakes — Fri, 04 Mar 2011 03:30:24 +0000

Yes, I’m absolutely my own worst critic! I think many people struggle with this. I can dish out lots of advice, beg my close friends not to beat themselves up as hard as they do but when it comes to taking me own advice? Not so good!

By: Kez

Kez — Fri, 04 Mar 2011 03:24:42 +0000

I am terrible with this! But I used to be even worse…
Sometimes when I know I’m beating myself up, I ask myself: If this was someone I care about telling me about their mistake – what would I say to them and what would I think of them?
I soon realise I need to take my own advice!!!