While I was home for the holidays, I logged on to my Ok Cupid app just to…look around.
I’m still spending some time in sad city/bummerland so my friends suggested I “get back out there” to try and take my mind off things.
I didn’t expect Prince Charming to appear, but when I was deleting old emails, I came across one that gave me a surprising reaction.
It said, “how is my future wife doing besides being her usual gorgeous self?
Cheesy emails like this are pretty standard but when I read it, my brain immediately said, NO THANK YOU.
Maybe I’m not ready for this.
After that email, I discussed with two single friends the amount of work/effort it takes to online date. We all hate it. Starting from the very beginning, the inevitable, awful first date, weeding through potential guys to see if there are any gems. It’s like a second job.
But one friend said some very true advice, “dating does suck but you have to just keep trying and put yourself out there. It won’t always work out but if you don’t try, time will just keep going by.”
Damn, that is SO TRUE.
Sometimes, I feel like I don’t want to date. I don’t want to try, I don’t want to put myself out there, I don’t want to get hurt again. But there is one thing that will make me get back out there: The feeling you have when you’re with someone you really like. I’m not ready to give up on that, but will get there, hopefully.
My friends give really good advice. Fact!
Sure that email was cheesy, but why turn it down? We like cheese.
I agree, you won’t find that special one is your not out there. Good luck love :)
I feel ya! Online dating can be great but at the same time so frustrating! The messages from creepsters and then the great guy on paper turns out to be so weird… I’ve been having fun in Charleston with it again, but I go in cycles where I’m in the mood to do it and put the effort into dating and others when it just isn’t worth it.
Plus hopefully you get some good stories… that is what keeps me going!
that is excellent advice. and really, you’ve got friends to bitch to when dates do go horrible or gush to when they go awesomely, either way we’re always here for you :)
And dating in Chicago? The worst. Guys want friends with benefits instead of relationships. It’s ridiculous!
Sigh. Dating is so draining. I definitely feel like I’ve experienced it all. But you just gotta keep on keepin’ on. And maintain that hope that one day you will meet the amazing man you deserve who will sweep you off your feet. I have hope in you, my friend. You are just so awesome.
so somehow I went on a accidental date and I thought he was interested in a job.
….oh my life.
Good advice!
It’s so true. I’m SO SICK of it and am, in fact, on a break but you gotta keep putting yourself out there. Eventually it’ll work :)