I read advice to women about men with a healthy bit of skepticism. Not in a man-hating sense, but I find the advice often humorous, and a tad off base. Or it is so general that I cannot imagine women actually behaving in that way.
So when I saw RT’s of Peter’s post titled 20 pieces of advice for women about men, I was, let’s say, curious.
I was ready for it to say, “don’t be such a bitch sometimes,” or “try harder to look nice for us.” Honestly, I had no idea what to expect.
And then as I read it, I found myself nodding along and having a “hell yes!” attitude at the end.
And then I promptly shared it with friends, both single and newly dating. They had the same reaction.
What prompted such action? Well, in a numbered list, Peter shares, from a real guys perspective, advice to women about things to look for and not settle for in the men they date.
And as much as I wanted to hate it or cry, “YEAH RIGHT,” it was really true. And it is a good reminder to anyone dating or looking to date.
Here’s the thing, online dating can make you super critical. And after you’ve been at it for a while, you get a little jaded. You wonder if you’ll meet someone that gives you the butterfly, swoony crushes and if not, should you just take what you can get?
Even if you think about past dates or boyfriends that didn’t work out, you can find yourself rationalizing things that were red flags because it’s better than no guy. Sometimes, that feeling of “settling” is just there.
But reading that list gave me the kick in the ass I needed. I deserve the key things on that list of 1-20, ending with the biggest reminder: don’t settle for a guy who doesn’t like you completely.
That is something I need to be reminded of because sometimes, in the heat of the moment, it’s easy to forget that.
So thanks Peter for the reminder, I definitely payed that advice forward.