I love texting. It’s easy, fast and keeps me from having to talk on the phone on a regular basis.
But there is a dark side to texting.
I text with just about everyone. Blog friends, family, coworkers, IRL friends, etc.
But the people who make me want to pull my hair out in text-induced frustration are boys. Boys I know, am friends with, am or was “hanging out” with. Every.single.one.
Because of the “boy texting black hole.”
Here is what usually happens:
- Text conversation is initiated by me or the boy
- Texting continues for an undetermined about of time on a regular basis of back and forth
- SUDDENLY A BLACK HOLE SWALLOWS THE BOY WHOLE AND I DON’T HEAR BACK FOR HOURS OR DAYS
- Text conversation is initiated again with no closure or reference to past conversation (even though it’s in the history)
At first, I feared the boy is laying dead on a sidewalk, unable to call or text 9-1-1, or he fell asleep, or he has been attacked by a swarm of pigeons and his phone was damaged while trying to protect “the moneymaker,” aka his face.
Male text etiquette like this, where they drop off the face of the earth…drives.me.fucking.insane.
To be fair, some women do this too, but in my experience, it’s more prevalent with guys.
Recently, I’ve been on a complaining rampage about this my female/male friends and I cannot come up with a logical answer.
Until last night when my platonic male life partner Ryan heard me out and said, “we drop off because we’re bored.”
It was like a light bulb turned on. Of course, I questioned him further.
Him: “We’re not necessarily bored with you as a person, just that conversation, so we stop responding so we don’t have to talk anymore.”
Me: “And you don’t think that saying, ‘hey I have to go’ would do the same thing?
Him: “Maybe but we just don’t do that.”
And while I wanted to punch him in the face, it made perfect sense.
I’ll admit I can be a little bit of a “feeler,” despite the cold exterior and the idea that someone is bored and would rather drift off than close a conversation, kind of pisses me off.
But finding logic in this is like finding logic in a Pauly Shore movie.
Now that I know, I look at those text conversations in a new light. He’s just not that in to texting me. NOTED.