17 October 2012

Getting happy and making changes

By: Jessica B.
Tagged: Random

Happiness is a subjective emotion. I mean, what is being truly happy?

Well here’s the things, lately, I haven’t been really happy.

And happy in a content way.

And the unhappiness I’ve been dealing with hasn’t made me the best person, friend and daughter. And forget about having any sort of romantic or naughty thoughts.

In early August, I wrote about taking back control in my personal life. I meant it and was doing it. Then, I got crazy sick and seemed to lose control again.

But then, I went to London and got perspective (and my allergies activated).

The first part of perspective was to really look at why I am unhappy. What’s causing it and where is that unhappiness really located: professional, personal or both?

It’s a funny thing, trying to really scrutinize and identify why you’re not happy or what seems to be the root of that unhappiness. It may either tell you it’s easy to fix or…not.

Then I looked at, when I was happy and content, what was happening in my life at that time to make me feel that way?

And the answer was pretty clear.

So now I’m trying to begin making these changes. One has already started and the rest will follow soon after. And even though the changes to the main issue aren’t what I expected, it’s still progress.

Things will never be perfect. There will be good days and bad days, but I’m ready to start feeling like the good outweigh the bad and get back to being a better friend and daughter.

Away we go!




  1. Well, good for you for recognizing your unhappiness and doing something about it! So many people choose to wallow in their misery–I hope you are seeing the light at the end of the tunnel.

  2. Jenn says:

    This is exactly how I’ve been feeling lately too, and I’m working on fixing that. Hang in there lady!

  3. katelin says:

    friend i am with you. sometimes we just have to step back and take a look and try and fix it the best we can. let’s be happy. i think a trip to LA would definitely make us both happy :)

  4. Marjolein says:

    Good for you! I hope these changes can take you to a better place in life.

  5. Good for you. When you’re stuck in an unhappy place, it can be hard and sometimes scary to identify what’s making you unhappy or to simply admit to yourself you know what it is but you’ve been scared to do anything about it. Just taking some steps usually puts me in a better place.

  6. Carolyn says:

    I relate to this post so so much!! I feel like I’m in exactly that position right now. I’ve been unhappy for a while but sorta stuck in how to really change that. I do know what needs to be done now and I’m slowly starting to make the changes I need to make to get back to happy again. good luck with your journey!

  7. Julianne says:

    Sounds like good things are in the works for you. Its not easy to stop, acknowledge somethings not right and try to fix it! Many people just complain and don’t do anything.