This weekend while talking to a friend from out of town, we got on the subject of relationships and how you know if you’re in love.
I may be bad at relationships but I am good with advice.
And what I told her is this: there is no one way you know. You just….do. And how you know comes in many forms, from a lightening bolt to slow realization to it feeling like it’s second nature.
When I was in love, I was fortunate enough to have a lightening bolt-like realization. I just knew. And while it hurt like hell when it stopped, I remember that clear distinction that the guy I was seeing changed in to the guy I loved.
And this lightening bolt realization has come with friends too. There is a small handful of people I’ve felt an immediate click with, knowing I had to get to know them because somehow, they’ll be important to me, even if they leave my life down the road.
And hearing my friend unsure how to express if she had a similar situation, I gave one more piece of advice, which I also gave to someone else years ago.
In my opinion, knowing if you love someone isn’t always about one moment. But maybe it’s about the sum of those parts. It’s realizing that while this guy may not be the best lover or funniest guy you’ve dated, that he makes you feel complete more than anyone else has. You can’t wait to see them or tell them something and you always think of them when you have news to share.
Or maybe that’s just me.
Have you ever just “known” or had a connection with someone?