22 January 2013

Things Single People Hate

By: Jessica B.

Happy Tuesday everyone!

Being a single lady, I read a lot of articles about dating, relationships, being single, etc. Not because I’m looking for tips but because I’m curious how people write about them. Some of them are pretty dead on, others, not.

And then I found one on Facebook from Thought Catalog that was a mix of both. So, Arielle and I decided to make it the subject of our next installment of Single Girl Confidential.

So, the article was called “20 Things Single People Hate” and I wanted to highlight a few that really caught my attention.

Being reminded you are single or told that, for any reason, your lack of being romantically attached to anyone makes you a less desirable or fit human being. (#1)

I’ve never had someone SAY this to me, but yeah, it’s been pretty well implied. Granted, in most cases it was from people of another generation, who were married at 23 or already having a family then. But it still bothers me because, there is nothing wrong with being single. And you don’t need a reason why. You are you and you are just as fabulous without someone as you would be with.

Those moments where everyone else is sleeping with someone but you. This is why God invented Double-Stuff Oreos. You need the extra love. (#13)

Uh, welcome to my fall 2012. Except my comfort wasn’t Double-Stuff Oreos, it was…well, hmm, anything else that I could stuff in my mouth (TWSS). Even if I’m finding comfort in food while making my friends tell me about all the sex they’re having, I’m still happy for them. And some REALLY like to share, so, yeah it’s a little lady porn for me too.

Having people equate relationships with happiness. (#18)

I think I need to make a bumper sticker that says, “single people are happy!” Seriously, whomever thinks that you can only be happy if you’re in a relationship, needs to be hit with a tack hammer. Here’s a shock, I am happy! Not every day or every hour, but I am and being solo or just with friends makes me happy too. Trust me, I’ve seen many miserable couples. No thank you.

One person cannot complete you. The only person who completes you is you. (#14)

Y-E-S. This is very similar to what I listed above, but it’s so true. You cannot be happy with someone else until you can be happy on your own. And if that person doesn’t show up, you need to be able to love and complete yourself. You don’t need someone to complete you, they should fit with you and compliment who you are now.

And that is all I have to say about that.

Single Girl Confidential signing off for now.


  1. Paula says:

    People who NEED to be in a relationship really frustrate me. I don’t understand why they can’t be happy with their own company.

  2. Arielle says:

    Haha I love your use of “lady porn.” Also, I didn’t comment on the “The only person who completes you is you” one in my post but I absolutely LOVED that sentiment. So true, and something too many people forget, I think.