‘wedding’ Category

18 August 2008

Random Monday and a wedding shower!

By: Jessica B.

My apartment is a mess and I have a ton of paper to shred, like Enron-style, so I’m keeping this one short tonight with a nice list of random bullets and bloggy “house cleaning.”

  • I’m making guest appearances again: I’m guest blogging over at I’m a Mom in Real Life today and making a partial guest appearance over at Random Ramblings About My Crazy Life. Seriously, my stomach almost needed to be pumped from the amount of yogurt I consumed for that latter post. Check me out!
  • Reunion follow up: My outfit choice that everyone weighed in on got a really good response. People commented multiple times about the color and how cute it looked altogether. And of course I told them that my blosse has great taste :) For the first time in a while, I didn’t take pictures and honestly in that setting, it would have been too weird. Sorry :(
  • Wedding shower gift: Thanks to everyone who weighed in on this – I’m not always the best gift giver, especially under a time crunch. Fortunately, my stepmom saved me and we went in on a gift together from the registry. The couple is now the recipient of a lovely coffee maker from the registry!!
Wedding shower recap:
The wedding shower I went to this weekend was actually a lot of fun and very efficient! My two favorite things.
My stepmom did the most amazing flower arrangements, which went first in the “shower games,” which consisted of guests telling stories about marriage or about the happy couple. I didn’t really have stories to contribute under either topic so fortunately I wasn’t picked.
Mimosa’s were served but I opted for straight champagne instead. Why dress it up sometimes? So I was the “alcoholic” at the table, taking pictures for my aunt and talking progressively louder as time went on. But I wasn’t driving so I just tuned those naysayers out.
The best story that was shared at the shower came from a friend of my aunt, who had her 4-5 year old daughter with her. In summary, the woman’s now-husband was going to propose with her grandmother’s antique engagement ring. Once he decided to propose, he had to take the ring to be sized and the wife eventually noticed it was gone and figured out it was because of the forthcoming proposal. When the husband found out she knew he had the ring, he came home one night from work, changed clothes and followed her into their bedroom where he threw the ring, still in the box at her saying, “well you already know this is coming so just put it on.”
AND SHE DID. And that is the “romantic” story she shared about how she was proposed to. To close the story she said, “and he still surprises me every day,” to which I responded, “what else does he throw at her?”
That was by far the best story. The other ones dealt somehow with the bride, groom or members of the wedding party getting wasted before the wedding. But that I expected to hear :)

14 August 2008

My love/hate relationship with wedding registries

By: Jessica B.
I really love wedding registries but right now I find them stress-inducing.

Saturday I have a shower for my cousin’s fiancee and I’m freaking out about getting them a gift. I don’t have a car in Chicago so getting to Target isn’t the most convenient trip around town and I totally spaced (until Tuesday) that her her shower is Saturday and I don’t have a gift yet, and likely won’t be able to get one until Friday when I’m back in Wisconsin.

Basically, I hate feeling rushed to get a gift and then still have to wrap it. I’m not a big “frills” person when it comes to wrapping, although I always appreciate the effort when it comes from friends. My friend Liz is the best gift wrapper I know. At Christmas, I want to make a gift wrapping sweat shop and lock her in the basement to wrap all of my gifts for me, while only giving her a thimble of water and 25 cents for her work. And if I know Liz, I think she’ll be okay with that.

So tonight I checked out their registry at Target and it’s pretty picked over. Sh*t. In the interest of time, is it tacky to just give them a Target gift card (nicely wrapped – in a card) so they can go get whatever they want? I hope so because that’s the way I’m leaning right now.

Ironically, despite the recent stress, I do love wedding registries. Several women I work with are getting married this fall/spring and I love hearing about the details and what they’re working on now. I told RebeccaC on Friday that several people I know who are or recently got married complain about registering for gifts, which I just don’t understand. I think it’s fun. I helped my parents when they got married and it was like Christmas, but not.

I’m thinking of starting a registry consulting side-job, where I meet with the couple, identify color patterns and items they would like to replace and register for and then I go off and do it for them (with a monetary fee of course). I think it’s a great idea. And I like to think that I have very good taste :) Heck I’m furniture consulting for Ryan for free! What’s up with that?

Thoughts? Is a gift card tacky??

26 May 2008

Meet me as a bridesmaid

By: Jessica B.
As just about everyone knows, I was home in Wisconsin this weekend for my brothers wedding, in which I would make my bridesmaid debut and which is why I haven’t posted anything since Thursday – it was a full weekend wedding bonanza!
Anyhow, it’s Monday now, the wedding is over, my hair still has glitter in it (as does my clothes), I’m exhausted and I have decided not to log my food from the weekend because…well it would be too painful.
So let’s jump in, I have plenty of pictures to share and I have to say, while the wedding was exhausting and the weekend was almost like being in college again, I’m glad I was a bridesmaid and that I was there to see my baby brother get married. It’s definitely a different experience than watching friends get married and it’s something I won’t forget.
Rehearsal Dinner
Before the wedding, of course, we had the rehearsal at the church. I met my groomsmen, Tim, who my brother and I went to high school with, and who I found is a bit of a character. I wasn’t sure if he was a perv or “special” – turns out it’s a little of both – but he was a gentleman to me (until the reception).
After the church, we headed over to a local sports bar for the rehearsal dinner where we toasted the happy couple, I got my bridesmaid gift and received the most generous wine pour that I’ve ever had. Fortunately, I kept myself in control, as I’m still a little gunshy after my unfortunate Nordstrom’s event a few weeks ago. *shudder*
Because hair started at 8 or 8:30 a.m. on Sunday, the bridesmaids shared a hotel room (at the hotel hosting the reception), which was like living in the dorm again – in a fun way. We were all up late talking and laughing, with our dresses hanging from any possible hook or cupboard we could find. 
The big day – the glam squad
So after the third day of little sleep, everyone was up and ready on the day of the wedding. Hair started promptly at 8:30 a.m. and while two girls were being worked on, others were going through the rounds of hair/make-up. At one point, we had 13 people in the hotel suite – and yes it was cramped, but in a good way (if that makes any sense).
I opted to go with a “Jenna Bush wedding” look for my hair, but with a few more curls. I wear my hair straight on a daily basis (out of laziness) so if I was paying for my hair to be done, curl it and spray it within an inch of it’s life! The hairdresser working on me sprayed my hair (and the other bridesmaids) with glitter hairspray. It added a great shine to the hair but got ALL over my clothes and body. Liz even sprayed my chest to match the other bridesmaids – that is a true friend. Here is my hair’s final product, front and back. And with Liz’s expert guidance, it turned out great.

Then it was time to get in the dress (which still fit – thank god!) and head to the church. I have to admit, when I had that dress on, combined with the gorgeous hair and somehow perfectly applied make-up, I felt absolutely beautiful. That’s not to sound vain, but throughout the day, everyone kept telling me how beautiful I looked and for the first time, I would reply, “I do,” or “I know!” I was even sad to wash the curls out this morning and remove the bobby pins last night. Not everyone knows I suffer from crippling self-esteem issues so for me to feel that way, embody it and have people recognize it, I felt like I was the prettiest bridesmaid ever.
Also, because the wedding was themed after the Wisconsin Badgers (my brother, sister-in-law and our family are huge fans), it’s only appropriate that the flowers follow that trend too.

Going to the chapel
We had to wait a bit once we got into the church so that guests could arrive and be fully seated. While we were waiting, I got to see my brother before the wedding and was nearly hit by the rambunctious ring bearer with a dodgeball. Fortunately though, I wasn’t hit, or that ball would have been thrown back at him. 
When we all lined up to walk and meet our groomsmen, my knees were totally shaking and I was sweating like crazy. Tim did a great job walking me down the aisle and when I looked up and saw Andy at the alter, I wanted to cry. My baby brother, who I’ve had a love/hate relationship with since he was born, was getting married. How did we get to this point?
Here are some pictures from the ceremony – unfortunately Liz wasn’t able to get me coming down the aisle so I’ll post an “official” photograph of that later. But the last shot is of me/Andy after the wedding. I think we look pretty darn good.

Party time!
So now that the wedding is over, we took photos outside (in the great sunshine and 70-degree weather – finally!) and got on the party bus back to the hotel, where champagne was flowing and the AC was on as well. We pre-partied before the cocktail hour – which lead to me getting horribly drunk on champagne and lead to me inhaling food during the cocktail hour so that I was sober for the wedding party procession. Fortunately, I rallied and was sober for the wedding party line-up, where we screamed so loud that a small child started crying out of fear. We get crazy in Wisconsin.
Before the wedding, we kept hearing that the bride had a surprise for my brother, but only two people knew what it was. Personally I thought it was news that I would be an auntie, but I was even more thrilled to find out with everyone else that my sister-in-law arranged for Bucky Badger (the Wisconsin mascot) to make an appearance at the reception and take pictures with guests. Bucky f*cking Badger was there, how awesome is that? Pretty awesome and appropriate if you have a Badger-themed wedding. Here are pictures of the wedding party and me with Bucky – f*ck ‘em Bucky!
The other big treat of the night (other than my brother and sister-in-law dancing to “Soulja Boy” before their first song) had to be the father of the bride dancing (with the groomsmen and bride) to the Napoleon Dynamite dance. He loves that movie and in full costume and DVD
 guidance, the entire party joined in on the fun. It was so great. 
The day after
We got back into Chicago today and to amazing weather. I managed to wash out all the product and most of the glitter from my hair. Now I’m catching up on e-mail and Podcasts before I inevitably crash for work tomorrow. So my dress is hanging in my closet, where I’m sure I’ll wear it again soon to water plants or dishes. That would be lovely. Want more pictures, e-mail me and let me know, there are some gems I didn’t have time to post.
Quote of the weekend
“That’s why you’re going to die alone….if a man can’t share his beef jerky, he can’t share anything.”  – Said by yours truly (after four glasses of champagne)
Also, I just want to say a big thanks to my friend Liz, who accompanied me this weekend. She was a true sport the entire time, holding my bag/wrap when I needed it, helping with anything big/small that needed to be done and being a true sport around me and my crazy family. She took just about all the pictures in this post and did a great job.

26 March 2008

Update: Bridesmaid invite done by mass e-mail

By: Jessica B.
Tagged: Friends, wedding

In February, I posted that a friend of mine was invited to take part in her close friend’s wedding by mass e-mail. The e-mail also informed the five potential bridesmaids that one of them would be selected at a later date to be the maid of honor. Since many of you shared in my horror about this story, I’m pleased to say that I have an update.

My friend informed me tonight that she, unfortunately, did not make the “maid of honor – Survivor” cut. This did not surprise or disappoint her, but apparently the bride-to-be did not get a good reaction from the way she asked these women to be part of her wedding, so she recently made the “I’m sorry I asked you to be in my wedding by mass e-mail” tour around the city to personally ask each of them to take part. Apparently though, for the bridesmaid who was chosen to be the maid of honor, it was too late. She turned the “role” down, and honestly, I don’t blame her. So now one of these remaining girls will be asked as a sloppy second.

It appears as though the wedding, which will be held next year, is going with a 50s Hollywood theme, including satin, pearls, French twists and Audrey Hepburn glamour. From the few times I’ve met this woman, I’m sure there will be a good amount of “50s Hollywood gawdy” that will be thrown in too.

My poor friend also received, with her verbal bridesmaid invite, a list of what she will be required to wear and get for the wedding, including the following:

  • #2 MAC faux eyelashes
  • Her hair in a Breakfast at Tiffany’s twist, with bump on the crown of the head
  • A “delicate” pale pink dress that is knee-length and with a huge bow in the back
  • White satin shoes and matching purse

She had more to add but I couldn’t write it all down fast enough because I was laughing too hard.

Another portion of this story consisted of the bride-to-be refusing to speak with her divorced parents because they informed her that they cannot pay for part of her “deal” wedding. When they told her that their financial situation didn’t allow them to help pay for it, she became enraged with them because “they’ve had 30 years to save for this.” While it doesn’t surprise me that she reacted this way, it did irritate me that she was so selfish about this.

Trust me, when you grow up with not a lot of money, you learn not to expect anything and to be grateful for what you are offered. I think the issue really is that she expected them to pay for this and found out that wouldn’t be the case. And we all know what happens when you ass-u-me things.

If I get married, I have no expectations that my parents will help pay for it. Of course, if they could offer some help, that would be great, but honestly I won’t hold my breath.